Top Ten Tuesday: 10 things off limits

There are a lot of things I don't blog about. I'm pretty reserved in my daily life. I share some things here but I think long and hard before I post something. You can't take it back, you know? Well, you can, but someone is likely to have read it before you delete it. So, I keep a diary; a personal journal in which I write all things that I would never dare to write here.

I know sometimes this blog paints a rosy picture of my life but that's what I want you to see. My real life isn't exclusive of this blog. What is exclusive from this blog are the sad times, the people who tear me apart, the work disasters, the days I want to just come home, get in my pajamas, and cry. I don't put that here. That is not anyone's business.

I just choose not to write about really personal stuff. I really don't think people come here to read that. I won't be that vulnerable to others (some of whom I don't even know.) That would assume that I seek validation from this blog. I do not. I write this as a record for myself, fodder for strangers, updates for friends and family, and a virtual scrapbook for my husband and future children. I omit the negative stuff because, frankly, it's none of your business. I don't have an overwhelming urge to hang my dirty laundry out to air in public. There are many things I don't put here, good and bad.

In a future Top Ten Tuesday I will post about my favorite things to document but, for this week, I'm going to post about the most popular things I never put on here. *Note* I have zero judgement about people who choose to post more intimate or personal details about their life. I enjoy reading blogs and I believe a person should write what they feel is important to them, good, bad or ugly. I just have a lower privacy threshold than most people so this is my view on my blog-- do with yours as you wish :)
 
1. I never speak specifically about work. I might share a vague story but I don't spend a lot of time blogging about my career. I am consistently consumed by my job. I'm work obsessed, we know that. It seems counterproductive to blog about it. I love my career and I love my kiddos. I am blessed and most days that's enough said.

2. I never use this blog to diss people who I come into contact with in real life. There is drama in my life but, I won't give it the glory or satisfaction of putting it here.

3. I don't post pictures of my friend's children without their specific permission.

4. I don't post about past relationships. I don't mind talking about my past but, I don't tend to post about people who existed in my past if they clearly aren't part of my present.

5. I don't post about the city I live in (or the general vicinity.) I'm sure it wouldn't be all that hard to figure out because I often talk about places I like to go but, I won't specifically state where I live.

6. I won't post pictures of the outside of my house. On the off chance (it's almost an impossibility) that a client would happen across this blog I would not want them to know what my house looks like for hundreds of reasons. I have taken major precautions with the privacy settings of this blog to make it nearly impossible for someone to find me via search engine but, I still keep it in the back of my mind.

7. I try really hard to omit poor grammar and superfluous information in my blogs. I like to be succinct and, because I read a lot, I don't like to encounter unnecessary verbiage.

8. I never post about the intricacies of being married. I will talk about being married and what I love about it but, I won't post the truly personal stuff like the fights that come along with relationships. Yes, Aaron and I do (occasionally) fight. I find no need to rehash it here and force my readers to take my side ;)

9. I don't post about vacations before they happen. It's a bad idea for a lot of safety reasons. I also try not to post about anything before it happens. In my eyes, it's just bad luck. I might mention oh, I want to go here or we've booked a trip there. But, never ever, when we're going.

10. I don't often use this as a forum to vent or process things in my life. As I've said one-million-times, I have a great core group of friends, a diary, a sister and an amazing husband who listens to me whine, cry, or bitch. I come here to post fun tid-bits; surface things. Sometimes I do post deeper, more sincere things (which I'm sure I will again soon-- when I'm ready to post about Ashley) but those times are few and far between.

I really hope you enjoy reading as much as I enjoy writing.